Being confident in life is a three-part procedure that starts before you get out of bed in the morning. First, you put on your big girl panties and decide you are a confident person. Second, you put on your fake it until you make it (with work) dress by behaving as if you are confident. Third, put on your accessories, which are the clichés that will get you pumped up and keep you going when things get hard or go wrong. Think of these three steps like a recipe. When you put all the ingredients together you will have exactly the confidence you need.
Putting on your big girl panties means that you face the world ready to do all that needs to be done. When you wear your big girl panties you are saying that you are showing up like a grown up in order to do the hard tasks. When you wear your big girl panties, you say to the world that scared or not, nervous or not you are stepping up to the plate and you are ready to hit a home run. When you put on your big girl panties you are claiming the confidence you want to have even if you do not actually have it yet. Creating confidence begins and ends in your mind so, you can get the confidence you need to do whatever you want, whenever you want.
You hold the keys to confidence in your hand and no one can take them away. Keep in mind, that if you lose your confidence, just like you can pick up keys you have dropped, you can pick up your confidence. We will discuss that more in detail later.When you wake up each morning tell yourself that you are confident. Claim it as a fact:
“I am Janeane Davis and I am confident.”
During the day, if you lose your confidence, simply tell yourself once again that you are confident. Say it to yourself over and over again until you believe it and live it. Say the words out loud. No matter where you are when the confidence disappears say the words aloud to yourself. If you are in a crowd of people, it doesn’t matter. Turn to the side and say the words. Words have power. Words make things happen. So, say the words aloud as often as needed until you feel the confidence.
The talk yourself into it method works. Years ago, Jesse Jackson said, “If my mind can conceive it and my heart can believe it, I can achieve it.” This quote explains how claiming confidence works. If you can think you have confidence and you can believe you can have, you can actually be confident. That is why even if you are not confident now and even if you do not believe you can be confident you must claim you are confident each morning. When you claim you are confident, you have conceived it. Your mind has entertained the possibility that you can have all the confidence you want.
Even if you do not believe you are confident or that you will ever be, you can change things. By telling yourself each morning that you are confident you can change things. Y will eventually believe that you are confident, that you can have all the confidence you want. Be encouraged and stand strong in the faith that if you keep telling yourself that you are confident, you will believe it and eventually you will live it. The confidence you want is easily within your grasp. Just claim it.
The next time you have something hard or scary to do, don’t pause to think of reasons why you cannot do it. Just picture yourself pulling up your panties, stepping up and doing the job. If you are meeting with supervisors at your job to discuss advancement opportunities, do not spend time being afraid or nervous about the meeting. Instead, get ready for the meeting in advance by making some notes in your tablet or on some 3 x 5 cards to make sure that you remember important points you want to discuss during the meeting.
You can either take action now to create the confidence you want or you can sit back scared. There is no reward to be found in living scared, so step up, show up like a grown up and make your world what you want it to be. Today is a great day to claim what is yours.
Take Action Now to Create the Confidence You Want
If you want to be confident and successful, you must do the work to create that confidence so take action now to do it. Wishing you were confident and hoping for confidence will never make the confidence appear. You must do the work to make it happen. Here is my favorite story to illustrate the point.
In Philadelphia there were five birds sitting on a telephone wire talking about plans for the winter.
Three of the birds decides to go to Florida for the winter holidays.
Question: How many birds were left on the telephone wire.
Answer: Five because deciding to do something is not the same as actually doing something.
Take a moment now to think about a situation where you need confidence. Make a picture in your mind of yourself in that situation standing tall, confident, successful and happy in that situation. Is it easy for you to see yourself acting confident in that situation or is it difficult? Does confidence come naturally to you or do you have to work hard at it? Do you always find a way to get the confidence you need to do what you want or do you find yourself often lacking the confidence you need in situations?
If you find it hard or impossible to summon up the confidence you need in situations, be encouraged, you can still make it happen. It is all about knowing your place in the universe. If you know that it is hard for you to be confident when you need to be, the solution is simple, plan in advance. Start by pulling out your calendar and looking at the things you have scheduled for the next week. If one of the things on your schedule is something that normally requires a lot of confidence and that fact scares you to death, start with that event.
Write down the event – use pen and paper or pull out your favorite electronic device. Next, write down all the things about this scheduled event that zaps your confidence. Then write down a way to defeat all of those confidence zapping things on your list. Words have power. This means that by writing down the event and writing down solutions for all the confidence zappers you are starting to take power over the things that zap your confidence. It also means the confidence you desire is close at hand.So you see, all you need to start having the confidence you want is your calendar and something to write with!