Being confident in life is a three-part procedure that starts before you get out of bed in the morning. First, you put on your big girl panties and decide you are a confident person. Second, you put on your fake it until you make it (with work) dress by behaving as if you are confident. Third, put on your accessories, which are the clichés that will get you pumped up and keep you going when things get hard or go wrong. Think of these three steps like a recipe. When you put all the ingredients together you will have exactly the confidence you need.
Putting on your big girl panties means that you face the world ready to do all that needs to be done. When you wear your big girl panties you are saying that you are showing up like a grown up in order to do the hard tasks. When you wear your big girl panties, you say to the world that scared or not, nervous or not you are stepping up to the plate and you are ready to hit a home run. When you put on your big girl panties you are claiming the confidence you want to have even if you do not actually have it yet. Creating confidence begins and ends in your mind so, you can get the confidence you need to do whatever you want, whenever you want.
You hold the keys to confidence in your hand and no one can take them away. Keep in mind, that if you lose your confidence, just like you can pick up keys you have dropped, you can pick up your confidence. We will discuss that more in detail later.When you wake up each morning tell yourself that you are confident. Claim it as a fact:
“I am Janeane Davis and I am confident.”
During the day, if you lose your confidence, simply tell yourself once again that you are confident. Say it to yourself over and over again until you believe it and live it. Say the words out loud. No matter where you are when the confidence disappears say the words aloud to yourself. If you are in a crowd of people, it doesn’t matter. Turn to the side and say the words. Words have power. Words make things happen. So, say the words aloud as often as needed until you feel the confidence.
The talk yourself into it method works. Years ago, Jesse Jackson said, “If my mind can conceive it and my heart can believe it, I can achieve it.” This quote explains how claiming confidence works. If you can think you have confidence and you can believe you can have, you can actually be confident. That is why even if you are not confident now and even if you do not believe you can be confident you must claim you are confident each morning. When you claim you are confident, you have conceived it. Your mind has entertained the possibility that you can have all the confidence you want.
Even if you do not believe you are confident or that you will ever be, you can change things. By telling yourself each morning that you are confident you can change things. Y will eventually believe that you are confident, that you can have all the confidence you want. Be encouraged and stand strong in the faith that if you keep telling yourself that you are confident, you will believe it and eventually you will live it. The confidence you want is easily within your grasp. Just claim it.
The next time you have something hard or scary to do, don’t pause to think of reasons why you cannot do it. Just picture yourself pulling up your panties, stepping up and doing the job. If you are meeting with supervisors at your job to discuss advancement opportunities, do not spend time being afraid or nervous about the meeting. Instead, get ready for the meeting in advance by making some notes in your tablet or on some 3 x 5 cards to make sure that you remember important points you want to discuss during the meeting.